Hi welcome back.
This brings us to Section 4 of the course the core values section no core values.
This is one of these topics one of these aspects of life that I could talk about until the cows come
home honestly.
Then workshops on a van soft delivered coaching sessions for literally an entire day just talking about
this one topic.
Reason being is because it's not like I can just share a few ideas or give you a little principle or
tell you what core values are.
And that's going to be it.
You're going to go and understand how to coach people in this area.
It don't work like us.
Our core values kind of operate as the driving force in our life.
Our core values under pen and give life to our beliefs our beliefs obviously underpin and give life
to our thoughts which then determine our actions and our outcomes and our feelings and all this kind
of stuff in life.
So if you were to look at the bedrock foundation upon which all life foundations are built upon core
values.
This is at the first time that I really gained an appreciation for how it is that our values drive us
in life.
I was studying counseling and this was around about a decade ago and to be honest with you the one of
my counseling trainers I really just did not like rice.
A lady will call her on although that wasn't really her real name or was it.
And anyway I was found this lady to be quite quite confrontational to me.
From there I found it to be all right with everyone else but it just felt like she was always on my
case or always picking up my flaws and imperfections and when I was getting things wrong or maybe that
was just my perception I wasn't sure.
It was actually after the training course it finished.
We were all invited to undergo like her like.
Like I'm very long counseling breakthrough session from our counselling tutors about how we found the
course whether the course triggered anything in us that we just didn't understand.
And back then I guess what you could say was Yes I was studying the human psyche I was understanding
the human mind I was understanding the different levels of human experience physical and emotional when
rational volitional and spiritual.
I'm at all this stuff and I'm starting to get quite a lot of information inside of this head of mine.
I was such an ideas guy back then you know I had a million different ideas every single day and if anyone
asked me Cain what are you doing with your life I would talk about in a really high energy way oh I'm
doing this and I'm working I'm not I'm going to be working on this over here which is going to allow
me to work and not only follow in and once I've completed that I'm gonna then start working this project
over here which is going to allow me to make this change and make that impact and then I'm going to
do the same over here and then nothing over there and this was literally if you understood any of that
right that's me talking hardcore Scottish All right.
And this is pretty much the pace my mind used to use to use to race.
And anyway I was sitting having a conversation with this old council on Twitter and she said Cain My
goodness you just seem so driven.
And then it went on for another five minutes is it.
Yes I am I'm totally driven I want to make an impact I want to do this I want to do this I want to do
this and I wanted do this and I'm talking about all of these things that I really want to do on an extremely
high paced way and just as keen I'm just wondering if I could intervene.
Yes you seem so driven but I'm just wondering what it is that really really drives you.
What is it that you personally are really trying to achieve and mindlessly.
I went on to give voice to all the things that I wanted to do and again she really confronted me.
She said Kate I'm not asking about what you want to do.
I'm asking about what is driving you.
This is leading you to want to do these things for is the core reason why.
And to be honest with you I had never even considered what I was driven by in life.
And you had always been quite a high energy kind of guy but I'd never really looked at what it was that
drove me.
I can remember reading a book probably around about the same time a book called star with y by an author
named Simon Sinek and I know he does a lot of work with Google and in terms of helping people to live
true to their values he really operates in that and the business in the marketing realms and this lets
book Start with why and what are the greatest examples that he gave was.
Was Apple Apple technologies obviously who have created the iPod and the iPhone and the iMac and the
entire book and the home and all the rest of the AI computers and technologies that they have.
And the example that he gave was what really drove up was an organization at the core.
They didn't just want to make the greatest iPhones in the market.
They didn't just want to top all other organizations in competition by creating the greatest and latest
gadgets or know what Apple what Steve Jobs vision was was he wanted to have the iMac and every home
around the world.
And I guess what we're talking about here is personal vision is for is that we really want to accomplish
at a robust level.
If we're not clear on what drives us in life well how are we ever going to know whether we're making
wise and well-informed decisions or whether we're spending or investing our time wisely or not.
No.
Think about your own life.
Have you ever spent a season of life or a block or a chunk of time working at something or doing something
only to some point just lift your head up and say why am I doing this.
Why am I investing my time and energy right now when it's something that I'm not even passionate about.
Because many people will do this you know if you look kids and look at the average human life.
I remember reading a report just a few weeks ago actually and it said and this is a very very broad
generalization All right.
The average human being lives to the age of 80 years old.
All right.
So on average human beings spend the first 20 years of their life in education.
Right.
And then they get a job or they enter the workforce and then people will remain in work from between
the ages of 20 to 25 through to 65 right until retirement age and then from 65 and was at 63 percent
of people.
And there's no sorry 87 percent of people make it to the age of 65.
So they actually see retirement and then it was something like 63 percent of people make it to the age
of 80.
All right.
No I'm not sure how anyone would be able to gather such data especially in a global population of six
point seven billion people or whatever it is.
All right.
But seriously the point it says we are we're going to spend a large chunk of our time here on Earth
working.
All right.
Doing something.
I guess it's important that we get clear on the purpose and the reason why no.
Just to revisit an idea that is shared right back and start this course.
All right.
And this was going to be a reason why you're taking this training right now.
There's going to be a reason why you're still watchin some people take online courses like this because
you know we're like to personally I'd like to create relatively cost efficient and you know inexpensive
ones and for the masses rather than charge and thousands and thousands of dollars like all that and
all the higher charge and training organizations over there.
But here's the thing.
Some people come on of course like vest because they just want to get a certificate and they'll get
the certificate and go and try and fill people that they're actually competent which we know they're
not.
So what I'm seeing here is some people will take a training course like this for the purpose of building
enhancing their CV for ultimately making a name for themselves trying to be someone that they're not.
Other people will take courses like this to study the information really grasp the ideas so they can
go set up a practice build a business at some point and ultimately make money.
So we're looking here at what actually drives us what really motivates us on a very very basic level.
Are we motivated in life by making a name for ourselves by proving ourselves to other people.
Are we driven in life by making money by just keeping food on the table.
Because those things are okay but they're really quite superficial.
Or are we in fact driven in life by making a difference all right.
And to be honest with you it was this revelation that I actually came to in response to Anne's question
came forward this.
What is it that actually drives you.
And it actually took me around about 45 minutes or the entire session to work this out.
She asked me whether I just wanted to be a counselor someday and I said No I don't really want to be
a counselor.
I'm not not passionate about the counseling process.
I prefer coaching.
I like to really help people get results not just talk about the feelings all day long.
All right.
And so we established that it wasn't in it for a job or wasn't in it to develop a reputation for myself.
And I certainly wasn't in it to make money.
And as things transpired the reason why I was studying all of their social psychologies and the various
help and disciplines was because I fundamentally wanted to make a difference.
No I'm sitting here opposite on and that was me.
I thought my goodness I understand myself.
And then she pulled out an absolute corker said that's fantastic.
Ken it seems like you've really arrived at some insights you know about yourself.
So tell me why is it that you want to make a difference boom.
And that was me.
This had this one question opened my eyes to the world of core values.
The reason why we do all the things that we do and more often than not we're not aware of these things
on a conscious level.
So through this section of the course nobody was that follow.
We're gonna go down the rabbit hole see how far it goes as we delve into the world of unpacking exploring
and hopefully understanding this spider web of core human values.